It’s been a couple of months since I wrote about the new direction I was planning for my second life, a step into Second Life’s sex culture. I was attracted to the idea of a “date auction” but hadn’t really thought about how I’d get there or where this would lead. I simply jumped into the adventure expecting I’d discover what I need to know along the way, and that’s how it went. But before the holidays I needed a rest and time to ponder my discoveries.
Being An Exotic Dancer
I began stepping into the sex culture by applying for work at KamaSutra Exotic Dance Club. My friend Canary Beck, “Becky”, was the owner and she opened many doors for me. She trained me in the rules of the club and coached me in the use of the exotic dance animations. Most importantly, she introduced me to the art of gesturing. I enjoyed being a KamaSutra exotic dancer, especially getting to know the club staff and guests. In fact, I was surprised at how easy it was to engage the guests and I found the club was fascinating.
In many ways flirting through gesturing is the stock-and-trade of exotic dancers. And while I found it easy to be outgoing and friendly, I struggled with the gesturing. Maybe my problem was that I’d never been at ease in flirting publicly. For most of my second life, I had reserved my flirtations and intimate talk to private exchanges.
The Date Auction
The activity that drew me to KamaSutra and the highlight of my time there was the “Date Auction” event. Shortly after I started working, it was announced that an auction would be held in December. I looked forward to participating and once I got my poster up, I encouraged a couple of guests to bid on me. In the end it came down to two gentlemen who bid me up to the middle of the range. It wasn’t a competition, but I really didn’t want to be at the bottom.
On an evening in mid-December there was a formal party at the club. Most of the dancers wore their silks and many of the club’s male members came in tuxedos. There was excitement in the club as girls tried to get their bidders to bid higher. There was activity in all the rooms and then came the announcements of the winners. Unfortunately, my bidders weren’t there, so I wasn’t sure what would happen next. But then Becky notified me that my final bidder is the winner. I was thinking “Yay! I got won!” *smiles*
It was also the night Becky announced the closing of KamaSutra! The announcement was shocking. But Becky quickly reassured everyone that there would be a new club announced early in the new year but, dispite pleads for hints about her plans, she didn’t reveal any details. Both Harvey and Becky seemed very confident though.
The gentleman who had the highest bid for me was a guest I’d met on several occasions at the club. I was happy that he won and looked forward to our date.
Shortly after the auction and just before Christmas, I found myself dancing alone at the Christmas Pavilion at Calas Galadhon. I was hoping someone would come dance with me when I saw my bidder come online. So I invited him to come dance and he joined. We chatted about this and that and as the evening evolved I discovered he was an accomplished man in his real life. It didn’t really surprise me because I’d learned that most of the quests at KamaSutra were what I’d call “quality” people and not stereotypes.
My date and I danced for a several hours before saying goodnight. Before parting he asked if this was our “date” but I assured him it was just a friendly Christmas dance, no charge.
The Girlfriend Experience
Several years ago I watched a CNBC special report called “Porn: The Business of Pleasure”. The program focused on familiar highways and byway of the sex trade, but it also included a peek into something different. That something is the Girlfriend Experience.
The “GFE” is different from the services of escorts or call girls. This service is for men seeking the pleasure of a companion and lover, a girlfriend. This girlfriend is different from the type of girlfriend a man might meet through normal dating. For one thing, the man sets the rules for the relationship. But also the man must be able to provide generous support for his girlfriend.
For men and women interested in romance, this type of connection may sound antithetical. I have women friends who will shudder at the notion of the “GFE” as a relationship. And I know men who will shudder at the notion of paying for a companion. I suppose I should feel the same as those friends. Afterall, I’ve written about my own romantic life in detail. I’ve offered advice to men on How to Date a Virtual Woman. And I love romance as much as anyone.
So, why wasn’t I repelled by this “girlfriend experience” thing?
I can’t explain why. And I have to admit I’m strangely attracted to this type of relationship. In fact, I’ve thought about the “GFE” from time to time for several years. Maybe my experiences as a geisha help explain my attitude. As a geisha I learned how providing personal services relieves many of the tensions of traditional relationships. There is much more I could say about these unique engagements but this is a deep topic for another day. As I move forward in my escapades I hope to gain greater insight, and I’m certain I’ll explore these ideas again and again.
A Different Path
I’ve decided to become a girlfriend for hire. It’s a very different path for me. I’ve poked around, searching for information about the world of the paid girlfriends in Second Life. I’ve seen ads with the “GFE” code embedded but most of those ads appear to be misrepresentations for escort services. I expect I’ll have to find my way through the sex culture maze. I can’t even be sure there’s even a place for this type relationship in a virtual world. And I shudder at the cat calls expected from certain acquaintences. heh. Regardless of obstacles, the “GFE” idea is a path I find myself drawn toward.